By Heather Knight
Marriage is the most important thing in my life, after my faith. I love my babies but my husband is my partner, my best friend and also my biggest pain in the rear.
It’s so important, especially in todays society, to show our children what a good marriage is. What it’s meant to be. It’s hard to make it perfect all of the time and we all suffer from difficult times and have a few demons to fight along the way but the fight ends in reward. Not fighting with one another but the fight for your marriage.
There are times it’s smooth sailing and it couldn’t be more perfect and then there are times I’m not sure we can stand to be together. It’s easy to celebrate the wins and successes in a marriage and it’s also easy to throw in the towel when it gets difficult. The true warriors are the ones that enjoy those great times and know during the difficult times that you should just wait it out and do all that you can not to make things even more difficult.
The key to a great marriage is also having far more better times than bad ones together. If you are having that many bad times together there’s something wrong that needs to be fixed and it’s not just a waiting process for you and your spouse but it’s a heart issue.
Where is your heart in the marriage if you can’t enjoy this beautiful life God blessed you with?
You may need therapy or spiritual consoling but you must find where the disconnect may be.
Josh and I have been married for 15 years and together 17. Yes, we were babies.
We basically raised one another into the adults we are now. We bicker at times and anyone that knows our humor knows we may seem like we are fighting but we are the type of partners we really are best friends and we call each other out, we pick and we make fun. It keeps things interesting. Those around us also know that we love one another as much as two people can possible love one another.
The best way for us to make things work in our relationship is knowing he is the head of our home so that I can be the heart. I am sure many of you have heard me say that but I love the saying and I love that it really is our relationship.
He doesn’t keep me from anything and I don’t him. If he wants to play video games all day or play golf and if I need a day out shopping or at the spa those are our ways of distressing and refilling our energy from the week.
Family time is a huge key to success. Playing with your kiddos or watching them do stuff together and being able to sit back and look at them and your spouse and say, thank you Lord I am so blessed. The emotional rush of just stopped and realizing what you have can bring so much satisfaction to you and help take away any stress or pain in your life.
ALWAYS lift him/her up. Let them know what they do that makes you proud. Tell them when they do something well, even if it’s something small. It makes them want to do more and it brings a sense of success and worth to themselves. If you say negative things to your spouse or even your children it will make them not want to give effort because what’s the use. Make your spouse feel that they can do no wrong and if you have a spouse that makes you feel badly about yourself then YOU need to make YOU happy. You can only try and give so much until it’s enough.
I rarely hear of marriages that were actually at the point that they should have given up and in MOST marriages people quit far too quickly but there are the select few that it’s just not going to work and you shouldn’t stay in a miserable marriage. Demand respect while giving it.
Marriage is hard sometimes but the reward of a good marriage is worth far more than gold or diamonds. I promise.
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